Third times a charm right?

Farewell for now . . .

You may have noticed I haven't been around lately and truthfully I wasn't planning to post again but I really couldn't have that Halloween picture be the last post on this here blog of mine- I mean c'mon. 

A lot has happened, is happening, has changed, is changing, and there is a lot unsaid but for today my heart is not in this blogging thing, tomorrow that could change but for today- it's goodbye.

Thank you all for everything! Until next time . . . 

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

Ahhh! My first Giveaway!

I wanted to go big with this first giveaway and give away something substantial (hello $184 retail value!). If one day this blog gets big it will be because of you guys.  So this is my THANK YOU! And hey the chances you might win are pretty good :)

So here is what you get, the Shell I am so humbly modeling in this post, plus the base bag (can't have a Shell without a base), and a Shell of your choice from Miche's regular line because hey, there is no point in having an interchangeable bag if you don't have something to change it with. 

Not going to lie I am pretty nervous about doing this giveaway. Firsts are scary. 

And I am kind of out of town so if something goes wrong with the rafflecopter then.... lets just hope all goes well. 

Good luck! 

Giveaway ends Halloween!

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HAPPY BIRTHDAY

TO ME!!!

AND THE HUSBAND TOO, OF COURSE!

Oh yeah, and there might be a giveaway going down on this here blog tomorrow so you won't want to miss that...

Looking Forward

I know there are still a few more months left in 2012 but for me I am already half way through 2013.  Sounds crazy I know.  Work doesn't help this feeling, considering we are working on our fall 2013 line. I've been writing 2013 and discussing 2013 since the beginning of this year, so for me 2013 is practically over before it's even begun.

Having things to look forward to also makes time fly- and I have a lot to look forward to in the coming weeks and months...

1. California. The husband and I head out to the coast on Saturday for an entire week. We are driving the coast from L.A. to San Francisco. Can't even begin to tell you how needed this this time away is. Plus I've never been North of Santa Barbara and I love the adventure of new territory!

2. Birthday.  Monday marks my 28th birthday and the husband's 30th. Yup, we share the same day.  Would you believe me if I told you that our mom's also share a birthday? Because they do. 

3. Halloween. Must I say more?

4. Braces off. Hallelujah! Mark your calendars because November 9th is a big day!

5. Moving. Thank the heavens for aligning the stars to make this happen! No more of this.

6. Car shopping.  The husband and I have been sharing a car for the last 3 years- and it's worked out great but now I think it's time we each had our own set of wheels. 

7. Thanksgiving. Sans braces.

8. Christmas shopping.  I love buying gifts for people.  I take a lot of pride in finding that perfect gift. 

9. Christmas.  Getting to give those gifts. 

10. Building our new home... say whaaaa? We are building. It should be done in July. So looking forward to decorating. It's been way to long. You better believe there will be a lot of Pinning going on in the next few months. 

What are you looking forward to?

My Happiness Project

If you haven't already, I highly recommend reading, The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin.  It's book that inspires and makes you want to be better and do better.  It's a book about common sense in a way, and I am a big advocate of common sense. 

I for one love learning about myself and the psychology or our personalities.  In fact it was a toss up whether to go into design or go into psychology after high school. I was particularly interested in criminal psychology. Obviously design won out on that one. The draw of a glamorous life of fashion and all... but that is neither here or there.  

The book talks about setting up some commandments for your self. Rules that define you. One's that you can fall back on. One's that set you up for success.  Goals to aspire to and live up to. 

This is what I came up for myself. 

Be Ashley
Dare To Fail
Balance is Key
Enjoy the Journey
Everything Happens for a Reason
Live with Intention
Unplug and Be Present
Be Appreciative and Give Gratitude
Don't Gossip
Be Kind
Give
Make the Time

After I initially wrote these out, some things happened in my life that kind of gave me a wake up call and I have since added one more commandment and that is LOVE my husband.  I know that sounds odd. Like a no-brainer. But too often I think we- or at least I did- come complacent in our relationships, expectant or assuming that our spouse or any love ones for that matter knows we love them without us really needing to affirm that, simply saying, "I love you" isn't enough. 

I have an amazing man. I really do. I hit the jackpot when it comes to husbands. For the most part our relationship is easy. Really easy. It's the easiest thing about my life and because of that and because my husband is so awesome and so understanding, he often takes a back seat in my life and that is not okay. Even the easiest relationships still take work and attention. I need to LOVE my husband by turning LOVE into an action and showing it every day. 

I know my husband knows that I love him but that's not enough I want him to know that he rocks my world.  

Have any of you read this book and created your own happiness project? I'd love to hear it if you did!

Damn her

First off, I just need to say damn you to Erin at Living in Yellow. I use to never feel awkward or weird about my first sentence for each post but now since she has repeatedly brought up how she hates writing her first sentence on blog posts it's become hard to write them and I am now self-conscious about that damn first sentence.

Okay now that, that is out of the way... we can move on.

I wanted to say hello to all the new followers! I am so happy that you are here! In the last few months I have gained more followers then in the last 2 years of blogging. So thank you so very much! I've hit my 82 follower goal to do a giveaway and I am so excited to be able to do that! So keep your eyes out- because in the next week or so I will be posting that giveaway!

He is happy you are here too.

Any Which Way But Clean

A few weeks back a group of friends and I dressed up as bunch of Loofah's and played in some mud at The Dirty Dash.  As always, it did not disappoint!

I fell. A lot.

 

My loofah didn't hold up as well as the other ladies. I guess that's what I get for using staples instead of needle and thread...

Spina Bifida Awareness Month

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In honor of National Spina Bifida Awareness month I have asked my sister to share her family story about my nephew’s diagnosis with this disease.

 

Before we got pregnant with Adrian, I had been going through some medical trials myself that I had not shared with anyone (until now of course). About 2 months before finding out I was pregnant I was advised by my gynecologist, that it would be unlikely that I would ever be able to conceive a child of my own. At the time I had just turned 19 years old and although kids weren’t on my mind, it’s a big life changing moment when someone tells you that you will never be a mother.

Flash forward a couple of months and I am in the emergency room for what I thought was a bad reaction to an anti-depressant that I had recently started taking, only to find out I was actually pregnant! Surprised- confused- relieved? The emotions were all over the place.  

The day we found out that Adrian had Spina Bifida is a day I will always remember as if it was yesterday. It was the day after the super bowl and the day Denny’s was giving away free breakfast. My boyfriend and I were so excited because this was the day we were hopefully going to find out if we were going to be having a little boy or a little girl! After the ultrasound was completed the nurse had simply stated she needed to make a call and disappeared for a long period of time. The first 5 minutes felt fine but as time passed I was able to sense that something wasn't right, when the nurse finally returned she passed the phone to me and told me they wanted to talk to me. My heart instantly dropped and every bad thought imaginable flooded my head to the point that I was only hearing every other word the woman was saying. I had never heard of Spina Bifida until that moment and was unclear what it meant and how it was going to impact my babies life as well as mine.

That same day we were sent to a high-risk clinic to meet with a geneticist. Although, I know this woman was only doing her job I still hate her to this day and find outrage in my meeting with her. She began to explain to us what Spina Bifida was, a birth defect of the spine. Think of a zipper, you zip your jacket up to the top and there is a bubble where the “zipper” is no longer connected, essentially that is what happens to the spine on a baby with Spina Bifida, the spine never fully develops. That’s how it was explained to me and that is still how I explain it to this day, but what she said next is what I remember most. She began trying to convince me that abortion was the best solution. I actually walked out of the meeting after telling her to F*@k off, and knowing what I now know about Spina Bifida, living it, and watching my son grow, I know I made the right choice.

We continued the pregnancy as if everything was normal, we met with a specialist prior to birth and we were doing our best to cope with the situation. The day I went into labor was the 3rd scariest day of my life because I didn't know what to expect when my son was born. Like most Spina Bifida births, our delivery would be via C-section, as this method is safer and less traumatic for the babies opening in the back.

When Adrian was born, all I heard was a brief cry and then he was gone. It wasn't like most births where the baby is passed to the mom as soon as possible, no my son was immediately taken away for evaluation. I wasn’t able to hold Adrian until 2 days after he was born; I relied on pictures that my boyfriend and family members would show me since we were at different hospitals. For any parent I am sure you can understand that this wasn't easy and I had a hard time dealing with it all.

We spent our first month at Primary Children’s Hospital with Adrian undergoing major surgery and having trouble with his breathing, we spent every day there with him from morning until night, I couldn’t tell you the amount of tears I cried watching him go through everything in that first month. We ended up being allowed home with oxygen support but that only lasted 2 weeks before we were back at the hospital due to Adrian having excessive fluid in his brain and needing to undergo another surgery to have a shunt placed in his brain that he will now have for his entire life.

Everyday was a challenge that first year; Adrian had to have multiple hospital visits including an additional surgery at 8 months old. He had to be catheterized at home and was dependent on oxygen for a long time.

Adrian’s level of Spina Bifida is an L4-L5 impact and has so far only impacted him to a level of physical challenges. Adrian cannot feel from the knee down and was born with clubbed feet, which will have to be operated on as well as a series of castings to help correct them.

Due to the lack of sensation Adrian cannot walk alone but does have a walker and leg braces to assist him and at this point in the game I think this is what is hardest for me. My son has the most vibrant personality with so much energy and it kills me to see him watch other kids “running” or “climbing” knowing that he has a desire to do these same things.

It hurts because from the very beginning of this journey I have felt the guilt that it is some how my fault that my son has to go through all this. As a parent you want to take the pain away from your child but in some cases you can only put on the front that your strong because hopefully that will make your child just as strong but our children are stronger than we think.

I see my son looking at everybody as if he is missing out but the reality of it is my son knows no different and has learned to adapt to do the things he wants to do. I remember when Adrian had his leg correction surgery and I had been crying, he woke up and the first thing he said to me was, “why you crying mom”, he has never let any of his life moments get him down and I have never seen my son truly sad. My son’s spirit has been what has kept me going, he has changed who I am and my outlook on life, he is the prime example of happiness and because he is strong he has made me strong.

   

I wouldn't change anything about my son, because I firmly believe my son is who he is today because of the things life has thrown our way; I am where I am in life because of what we have experienced. Our life has proven to us that Adversity is truly a blessing in disguise and although our journey has only begun our optimism will keep us going. 

**Nobody is completely sure what causes spina bifida. Scientists say most likely it is due to a combination of inherited (genetic), environmental and nutritional factors.

Women who do not have enough folic acid during the pregnancy have a higher chance of giving birth to a baby with spina bifida. Experts say that women of reproductive age should make sure their folic acid intake is adequate. Nobody is sure how folic acid intake prevents spina bifida from developing.

If a woman gives birth to a baby with spina bifida, she has a higher-than-normal risk of having another baby with spina bifida too (about 5% risk).

Some medications, such as some for treating epilepsy or bipolar disorder have been associated with a higher risk of giving birth to babies with congenital defects, such as spina bifida.

Women with diabetes are more likely to have a baby with spina bifida, compared to other females.

Obese women, those whose BMI (body mass index) is 30 or more have a higher risk of having a baby with spina bifida. The higher the woman's BMI is over 30, the higher the risk